{"id":3932,"date":"2021-09-10T09:28:00","date_gmt":"2021-09-10T08:28:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.conferencecall.co.uk\/blog\/?p=3932"},"modified":"2021-09-10T16:06:00","modified_gmt":"2021-09-10T15:06:00","slug":"how-to-shake-hands-professionally","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.conferencecall.co.uk\/blog\/how-to-shake-hands-professionally\/","title":{"rendered":"How to shake hands (and what to do instead of a handshake)"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Handshakes are taken very seriously in the business world &#8211; too hard, and you&#8217;re a go-getting alpha-type who would sell their own granny to get to the top; too weak and you&#8217;re a simpering subservient, simply asking to be crushed, probably by someone whose handshake is way too hard.<\/p>\n<p>But forget all that anyway, because the pandemic has all but killed off the handshake, leading to a confused system of fist bumps, elbow taps, and meek waves.<\/p>\n<p>So, before we get into how to give a professional handshake (it will be back), let&#8217;s take a look at some alternatives&#8230;<\/p>\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\n<h2>What are the post-Covid alternatives to shaking hands?<\/h2>\n<p>Although we&#8217;re well past the worst of what the pandemic had throw at us, we&#8217;re still at a cautious stage in proceedings, which means going in for a handshake might still be met with a surprised rejection.<\/p>\n<p>So, here are some alternatives to the good, old-fashioned handshake.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>A nod and a smile<\/strong> &#8211; a greeting older than the handshake itself, the nod and smile usually surfaces when you bump into someone you might know, but not well enough for a full hello or a stop-and-chat. Also used as an acknowledgement of an embarrassing situation, such as being stuck in a really long queue or bumping into the same person several times on different aisles in the supermarket.<\/li>\n<li><strong>A head dip<\/strong> &#8211; basically the same as the nod and the smile, but without the smile.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Namaste<\/strong> &#8211; A centuries-old greeting beloved of yoga-enthusiasts everywhere. Simply press your palms and fingers together at your chest while bowing slightly. Basically, this emoji with a head dip ?<\/li>\n<li><strong>The fist-bump<\/strong> &#8211; probably the most common alternative to the handshake, just tap your fist onto your opposite number and you have the Covid-friendly handshake. Beware of people going in for an elbow tap.<\/li>\n<li><strong>The elbow tap<\/strong> &#8211; basically the fist bump but with your elbows. Watch out for people going in for a fist bump.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>OK, so back to the handshakes.<\/p>\n<p>Thankfully, most of us see the handshake for what it really is &#8211; a way to greet another person, signify an agreement, or settle a deal &#8211; and not some way to assert authority over another person. If you see the handshake as a power-play, don&#8217;t bother leaving any of your watermarked, raised-lettering business cards behind as I show you the door.<\/p>\n<p>Whatever your thoughts on the handshake, there&#8217;s no escaping the fact it leaves a lasting impression on people &#8211; so what does your handshake say about you?<\/p>\n<h2>What does your handshake say about you?<\/h2>\n<p><iframe src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/exUlCjqQsDA\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p><strong>Limp<\/strong> &#8211; If you have a limp handshake &#8211; we&#8217;re talking the type of handshake where no pressure whatsoever is applied, you just sort of meekly let the other person grab your hand &#8211; this is seen as a sign of weakness and subservience. So at least try to reciprocate the grab &#8211; a little pressure is never a bad thing in business.<\/p>\n<div id=\"inread\"><strong>Vice-like<\/strong> &#8211; If, on the other hand, you apply the sort of pressure usually reserved for grabbing the neck of a wine bottle when the cork is stuck, this will make out that you&#8217;re either an aggressive person, or you&#8217;re trying to overcompensate &#8211; neither of which are great character traits. And if you go in for the bone-crushing handshake to try and assert your authority over someone, then you need to have a word with yourself &#8211; in short, you&#8217;re an idiot.<\/div>\n<p><b>Elaborate <\/b>&#8211; The elaborate handshake routine, involving any number of first bumps, finger tingles and high-fives is for kids. If you&#8217;re out of school and still doing this, you need to pack it in, it&#8217;s pointing to a complete lack of maturity and awareness.<\/p>\n<p><b>Too long &#8211;\u00a0<\/b>Your handshake may be simple and have just the right amount of pressure, but if you hold on to the other person&#8217;s hand for even a fraction too long, you&#8217;re giving off signals that you&#8217;re desperate for something. Hang on for more than a few seconds and things just get plain awkward, so keep your handshake down to two seconds, then release.<\/p>\n<div class=\"vestpocket\"><strong>Too short<\/strong> &#8211; On the flip-side, if your handshake is too short, it gives off the impression that you have no time for the other person &#8211; so why are you even bothering to shake their hand, you arrogant, duplicitous fool?<\/div>\n<div><\/div>\n<div>Side eyes &#8211; Right, here&#8217;s the twist &#8211; a good handshake isn&#8217;t all about the hand, it requires a certain amount of eye contact and, ideally, a smile. A handshake is a friendly greeting, remember?! If you don&#8217;t at least make eye contact with the other person, it says you may be shy, or insecure, or suspicious, or maybe all three &#8211; what sort of walking disaster would that make you?!<\/div>\n<h2>How to give the perfect handshake<\/h2>\n<p>Check out this short video from Robert Phipps, body language expert, on how to give the perfect handshake.<\/p>\n<p><iframe src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/N3zM23Hd7lo\" width=\"560\" height=\"315\" frameborder=\"0\" allowfullscreen=\"allowfullscreen\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<p>And always remember to do the following when shaking someone&#8217;s hand&#8230;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Keep good posture<\/li>\n<li>Make eye contact<\/li>\n<li>Hold your right hand out<\/li>\n<li>Give a good firm-but-not-too-firm shake<\/li>\n<li>Don&#8217;t linger for longer than about two seconds<\/li>\n<li>Try to smile<\/li>\n<li>Greet the other person and repeat their name &#8211; this is a great technique to employ if you usually struggle to remember the names of people you&#8217;re introduced to<\/li>\n<li>Stand up when shaking hands &#8211; staying seated can show a lack of respect for the other person, particularly if the other person is stood up.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<h2>How to shake hands in different countries<\/h2>\n<p>If you do business around the world, then these rules will change for every different country you visit &#8211; in the US they like a firm grip and an introduction, in China a lighter grip with a slight bow is best, and the handshake can be followed by a hug in Mexico.<\/p>\n<p>This handy infographic from <a href=\"http:\/\/uk.businessinsider.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Business Insider<\/a> shows how to shake hands around the world &#8211; it could be worth keeping a copy with you&#8230;.<\/p>\n<p><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-3936\" src=\"https:\/\/www.conferencecall.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/bi_graphics_handshaking-1.png\" alt=\"\" width=\"900\" height=\"6850\" \/><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.conferencecall.co.uk\/conference-call\"><img decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-1777 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/www.conferencecall.co.uk\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2015\/05\/conference-call-banner.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"750\" height=\"118\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<div><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Handshakes are taken very seriously in the business world &#8211; too hard, and you&#8217;re a go-getting alpha-type who would sell their own granny to get to the top; too weak<\/p>\n<div class=\"more-link-wrapper\"><a class=\"more-link\" href=\"https:\/\/www.conferencecall.co.uk\/blog\/how-to-shake-hands-professionally\/\">Read More<span class=\"screen-reader-text\">How to shake hands (and what to do instead of a handshake)<\/span><\/a><\/div>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[22,7,19],"tags":[23,29,9,8],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v20.9 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>How to shake hands and handshake | ConferenceCall.co.uk Blog<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"How&#039;s your handshake? 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